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Three Touchstones for Healthy Hugging

As part of our Two Minutes for Prevention series, Stewards of Children® author Paula Sellars provides additional insights and experience about the topic covered in the video below.  Nothing feels more natural than to hug the ones we love. Especially children. And hugs are healthy physically and emotionally, for the giver and the receiver. Think of the many contexts in which we may hug someone: To greet close friends and family As a goodbye To console and comfort Congratulating a job well done Giving affection …

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Safe, Not Sterile: Showing Affection

As part of our Two Minutes for Prevention series, Stewards of Children® author Paula Sellars provides additional insights and experience about the topic covered in the video below.  One of the best things about children, especially the little ones, is their openness and receptivity. Simply by their nature, children call forth our affection. Being in the presence of a child, we smile. We find ways to make ourselves smaller, less threatening. We ask questions and listen. We show enthusiasm. We mirror.  If the child knows …

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Critical Conversations for Teenagers

  As part of our Two Minutes for Prevention series, Stewards of Children® author Paula Sellars provides additional insights and experience about the topic covered in the video below.  Teenagers crave freedom, but only if they’re standing on a base that is stable and secure. -James R. Doty, MD Back in the day when I was training as a family therapist, my supervisor framed the parent-child relationship during adolescence in a way I’ll never forget. Very simply she explained the parents’ role shifts to helping …

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Teaching Proper Names for Body Parts

As part of our Two Minutes for Prevention series, Stewards of Children® author Paula Sellars provides additional insights and experience about the topic covered in the video below.  Minnie and Willie? For little boys, I’ve heard it called everything from pee-pee, junk, Willie, and ding, to man muscle, tender, and guy stuff. For little girls, I’ve heard downstairs, peach, hooha, garage, pocket book, Minnie, girly bits, and cookie among others. What’s going on here? As adults I think there are lots of reasons we use …

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Empowering Children to Voice the Uncomfortable

As part of our Two Minutes for Prevention series, Stewards of Children® author Paula Sellars provides additional insights and experience about the topic covered in the video below.  A couple of weeks ago we had a really good snowfall in Asheville, 18 inches in fact. I absolutely love snow, so I took the morning off, bundled up and went for an early morning walk. Crunching down my street I came upon at 10 year-old girl who recently moved into our neighborhood with her parents and …

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First Line of Defense

By: Paula Sellars, M.S.W., Author/Director, Stewards of Children Safe adults are the first line of defense against child sexual abuse (CSA). In fact, the adults in a child’s life are most responsible for whether sexual abuse occurs because adults are most capable of the judgment and skill that CSA prevention requires. Understanding how sexual predators groom children is actually quite nuanced. Reducing the opportunity for sexual abuse in organizations takes planning and knowledge. Talking to children about their body boundaries in an age appropriate, non-scary …

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Asheville, NC Citizen’s Police Academy Taking on Prevention

Thirty three trainees of the Asheville Citizen’s Police Academy participated with great interest, sobriety and enthusiasm in the Darkness to Light Stewards of Children training this week. “It was quite possibly the most lively and interactive Stewards training I’ve conducted” said Facilitator Paula Sellars. Paula shared with us her observations from the session this week – “One particularly exciting and inspiring participant, a 17 year old young man named James, shared with the group that this very evening he was going home to talk with …

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