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Active Bystanding in Families: How To Approach It

  Without safety, without happiness, without trust, without love, ‘family’ is but a shell. Last week we talked about active bystanding in families and the uncertainty it can create. We explored the prospect of what we may have to lose when we confront child sexual abuse or boundary violations in a family and why on earth we would do it. We sought that which was even more valuable than family cohesion, security, history, and tradition. And we discovered that it was perhaps on behalf of family …

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Challenge Made Easy(er) with D2L

By Kate Nyquist, Education Services Manager, Center for Child Protection, Austin, TX “Could I please get a volunteer to stand up and tell us about your last sexual experience?” This is typically the way I grab the attention of those who aren’t yet willing to make eye contact with me during the difficult subject matter of child sexual abuse in community trainings. Of course I never get volunteers but it helps push everyone’s discomfort so far that the group dynamics inevitably turn to laughter. As always demonstrated by …

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Talking to My Community: Insisting on Childcare Protections

By Erika Rowell, Program Support Manager, Darkness to Light  As a new mother, I was tasked with the responsibility of choosing a childcare provider for my son.  What a scary and overwhelming task this is for a parent! You’re choosing the people that will be spending 8 to 10 hours a day with your child. Going back to work after having a child is already a very emotional time, and knowing that your little person is in safe hands can make all the difference. I researched and …

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Preventing Child Sexual Abuse: “Do’s” and “Don’ts” for Busy Parents

By Laura Landgraf, Author, Activist, and Speaker Nothing compares with the moments my children were born. My son offered his opinion of the process instantly with an indignant wail. I laughed in delight. My daughter, after being placed on my tummy, quietly contemplated me with her great big eyes. I melted in that gaze. I vowed to honor the individuality of each of them, to foster their uniqueness. I would guide them, teach them, keep them safe from harm, and lay down my life for …

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Talking About It: The Prevention Cure for this Silent Epidemic

by Jill Tolles, Child Sexual Abuse Survivor and Speaker Talking about Child Sexual Abuse can feel scary and awkward, particularly for survivors. I know firsthand. In January of 2016, I broke my own silence in front of 1,400 people in my hometown at a TEDx Event arranged by my colleagues from the University where I teach. For months I debated whether or not I should share my story to members of my own community. What happened afterward was remarkable. I was overwhelmed by the number …

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SPOTLIGHT on Child Sexual Abuse

Several of Darkness to Light’s staff members went to see the movie Spotlight on opening night in Charleston. The film covers the investigative reporting of the Boston Globe’s Spotlight team in exposing the cover-up of sexual abuse in the Roman Catholic Church. We work at an organization committed to empowering adults to prevent, recognize, and react responsibly to child sexual abuse, and are immersed in the problem of sexual abuse. Yet despite our daily exposure to the issue, we left the theater without uttering a single word to each other. We walked dumbstruck to our cars, each lost …

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Pope Francis – “God weeps for the sexual abuse of children”

Excerpt from People.com Pope Francis spent part of his final day in Philadelphia meeting with past victims of child sexual abuse, promising retribution against those culpable for the Catholic church scandal that reached a fever pitch in the early 2000s. The pope expressed his warning to American bishops accused of covering up for sexually abusive priests at the start of a 30-minute meeting at the San Carlo Borromeo seminary on Sunday, according to Head Vatican spokesman Federico Lombardi. In the half hour meeting, the pontiff …

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Judge: Girl can’t be blamed for her assault

Excerpt from HeraldNet.com ARLINGTON, WA — A lawyer for a private Christian school and one of its teachers won’t be allowed to argue in court that a 14-year-old and her parents bear some responsibility for an inappropriate relationship between the girl and the school’s former principal. Snohomish County Superior Court Judge David Kurtz earlier this week promptly rejected Highland Christian Schools’ attempt to assert an affirmative defense at trial. Kurtz said the law is clear that a child under 16 is incapable of consent and …

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30 Years of Child Sexual Abuse: One Important Lesson

Yesterday, former BBC DJ Chris Denning was given a prison sentence of 13 years for three decades of child sexual sexual abuse. Denning was convicted on 40 counts of sexual abuse against 24 boys, aged nine to 16. This horrifying example reminds us that child sexual abuse crosses all geographic and socioeconomic boundaries. The court proceedings also show the pattern of abuse – how it happens and why prevention is so important.   “The defendant used the allure first of the record industry and celebrity, …

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LAUSD Admits It Destroyed Documents Regarding Child Sex Abuse

Source:  John Cádiz Klemack with nbclosangeles.com After nearly a week with no response to our inquiries about allegations the Los Angeles Unified School District destroyed documents that may have held key evidence in child abuse cases within the district, a spokesman admits the documents no longer exist. In an interview with KPCC, Sean Rossall of Cerrell Associates, the public relations representative hired by one of the law firms representing the district to exclusively handle media inquiries about the Miramonte child abuse scandal, says the documents were destroyed …

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