Being a Hero and Talking About Child Sexual Abuse

Spring is here and April is just around the corner. April is Child Abuse Prevention Month and Darkness to Light is working to encourage everyone to TALK about child sexual abuse. This TEDx Talk, by Jill Tolles, perfectly illustrates why TALKING ABOUT IT is something we ALL must do to protect children for sexual abuse. Watch the talk below and get a sneak peek into what we have planned for Child Abuse Awareness Month on D2Lblog.org/talk. ...
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An Excerpt from Matt Sandusky’s New Book “Undaunted”

This following is an excerpt from the new book "Undaunted: Breaking My Silence to Overcome the Trauma of Child Sexual Abuse" by Matt Sandusky. In the passage and accompanying video, Matt talks about the grooming process he experienced and how we can protect children from grooming behaviors. To purchase the book, visit www.amazon.com. Grooming reminds me of the story about the frog in hot water. If you put a frog in boiling hot water to stew him, he'll do everything he can to get out. Yet if you put a...
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Give Survivors More Time to File Child Sexual Abuse Claims

This op-ed, authored by DeAnn Tilton and Utah House Representative Ken Ivory, originally appeared in The Salt Lake Tribune on March 7, 2016. 

For every legal action, lawmakers decide DeAnn Tiltonhow long a victim has to take the offender to court. Historically, the state of Utah has given survivors of childhood sexual abuse just a few years to get to civil court to seek redress for the harm done to them by those who have abused them.

While short time limits, also called statutes of limitation, can be appropriate

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Got Moxie? Summoning the Courage to Intervene

Two-Minutes-Header As part of our Two Minutes for Prevention series, Stewards of Children® author Paula Sellars provides additional insights and experience about the topic covered in the video below.  This Two Minutes for Prevention video could be pretty discouraging. The news of it may even make you mad.  ‘Make you want to blame the messenger. But the fact remains that 90% of children who are sexually abused know their abuser. A close friend, a trusted teacher, an older cousin, even one’s own boyfriend or spouse – a person we...
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My Healing Journey Following Child Sexual Abuse

Dave Moody is one of the survivors featured in Darkness to Light's Stewards of Children® child sexual abuse prevention training. In the video below and the blog post that follows, Dave shares in his own words his survivor story and his journey to healing.  My story is one that you might have heard before. Born and raised in a loving household, I was sexually abused by my babysitter. Unable to tell my parents, I carried this experience into adulthood. Still, I got married, had two children, raised them with my loving wife Karla, and built a successful construction company in Atlanta,...
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SPOTLIGHT on Child Sexual Abuse

Spotlight-on-D2LSeveral of Darkness to Light’s staff members went to see the movie Spotlight on opening night in Charleston. The film covers the investigative reporting of the Boston Globe’s Spotlight team in exposing the cover-up of sexual abuse in the Roman Catholic Church. We work at an organization committed to empowering adults to prevent, recognize, and react responsibly to child sexual abuse, and are immersed in the problem of sexual abuse. Yet despite our daily exposure to the issue, we left the theater without uttering a single word to each other. We walked dumbstruck to our cars, each lost in our own thoughts...
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Critical Conversations for Teenagers

  Two-Minutes-Header As part of our Two Minutes for Prevention series, Stewards of Children® author Paula Sellars provides additional insights and experience about the topic covered in the video below.  Teenagers crave freedom, but only if they’re standing on a base that is stable and secure. -James R. Doty, MD Back in the day when I was training as a family therapist, my supervisor framed the parent-child relationship during adolescence in a way I’ll never forget. Very simply she explained the parents’ role shifts to helping the child become...
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Teaching Proper Names for Body Parts

Two-Minutes-Header As part of our Two Minutes for Prevention series, Stewards of Children® author Paula Sellars provides additional insights and experience about the topic covered in the video below.  Minnie and Willie? For little boys, I’ve heard it called everything from pee-pee, junk, Willie, and ding, to man muscle, tender, and guy stuff. For little girls, I’ve heard downstairs, peach, hooha, garage, pocket book, Minnie, girly bits, and cookie among others. What’s going on here? As adults I think there are lots of reasons we use silly code...
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Empowering Children to Voice the Uncomfortable

As part of our Two Minutes for Prevention series, Stewards of Children® author Paula Sellars provides additional insights and experience about the topic covered in the video below.  A couple of weeks ago we had a really good snowfall in Asheville, 18 inches in fact. I absolutely love snow, so I took the morning off, bundled up and went for an early morning walk. Crunching down my street I came upon at 10 year-old girl who recently moved into our neighborhood with her parents and her dog. We hadn’t met. I was a stranger. This youngster, I’ll...
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Texas Teachers are Protecting Children From Sexual Abuse

By Lyndon Haviland, MPH, DrPH, CEO Darkness to Light and Jenna Quinn, MS, Founder of Jenna's Law Jenna Quinn is a hero, and her courage is changing the lives of children in Texas. Sexually abused by her basketball coach, a family friend, Jenna remembers all too well the fear and shame that kept her silent. From age 12 to age 14, Jenna suffered through progressive violation of her trust and physical boundaries, followed by two more years of sexual abuse. The once outgoing, popular teenager became withdrawn and troubled, coping by overeating and experimenting with self-harm. Luckily for Jenna, family members helped her...
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